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VERY SIMPLE TO USE !!! SOME OF THE ISSUES ADDRESSED BY THE FAMILY SUCCESS MASTER PLAN ARE IN GREEN BELOW What can I do to have the most influence on my children?
Read further and see how the Family Success Master Plan can very likely add $50,000 to $250,000 to the lifetime earnings of each of your children.
What can we do to build a better, stronger family where everyone watches out for each other?
SAVE GAS MONEY Save the cost of this Family Success Master Plan in gas. Stay home and build family relationships and your kids' skills. And, the Family Activities Tool Kit gives plenty of ideas of things to do at home.
How do I get my kids to treat each other better?
How do I get my children to listen to me?
How can we make family talking safer?
Nothing . . . I repeat >>> nothing is more important tha n a deep, loving and understanding relationship with your children – and between your children. The Family Success Master Plan can help develop such relationships.
How can I help my children learn to express themselves?
How can I get my children to appreciate one another more?
How can my family learn to tolerate differences and encourage one another's individuality?
How can we help every one of our family members feel significant and important?
Great for talking while traveling, waiting, relaxing or killing time.
How can we help everyone to get only appropriate attention and not attention through bad behavior?
How can we reduce arguing?
Can we learn to find each other intriguing rather than irritating?
What are the things I want to make sure I teach my children?
What are the important things we need to talk about to build character and good values?
How can I get my kids to think about the chore they are doing so that they will do a better job?
How can I help my kids know their strengths?
How can I help my children with their weaknesses?
Are there certain survival skills that I should make sure my children learn, or at least think about?
How can I get my children to participate in their own correction and discipline?
Here's Dick in the Colorado mountains thinking through the design of our Tool Kits back in 2001.
How can I give my kids an orientation to life success?
How can I get my kids into affirming one another?
Where can I find a simple system for rewarding good behavior?
Where can I find a good system for encouraging positive contributions to the family, rather than just self-serving behavior?
How do I build positive attitudes into my children's' thinking?
How can I give my kids a "can-do" attitude?
How can I pass on the wisdom I have learned over the years?
I want our values to be carried on by my children. How can I help that to happen?
How can I teach creative problem-solving skills?
How can I teach solution-thinking about social situations?
Where can we get lots of ideas for family night activities?
How can we teach family teamwork?
What are some of the most basic, high-powered skills and abilities needed for success?
Is there a system I can use to make sure my kids can let me know that they have something very important to tell me?
Is there something I can listen to that would help me remember the principles of good dialogue?
How can I get my kids to really know that chores and rules are not just something I make up to make their lives miserable?
I wonder what my kids think about smoking. on
Parenting Game Grid 2a & 2b
I wonder what is each of my kids' favorite kind of weather. On
Family Talk Game Grid #2
I wonder what my kids think about using illegal drugs and drug abuse. On
Parenting Game Grid 2a & 2b
I wonder when each of kids feels most happy. On
Family Talk Game Grid #1
I wonder what my kids think about drinking alcoholic beverages. On
Parenting Game Grid 2a & 2b
I wonder what each of my kids think is the best way to tell a friend, "No". on
Parenting Game Grid 3a & 3b
I wonder if my kids could state three good things about spending a day with the family. Family
Leadership Game Grid 2a
I wonder how each of my kids would give away a million dollars. On
Family Talk Game Grid #3
I wonder what each of my kids thinks should be the consequences for not getting their homework done on time. On
Parenting Game Grid 4a
I wonder what each of my kids thinks is valuable about being fair. Family
Leadership Game Grid 3
I wonder what each of my kids remembers about various relatives. On
Family Talk Game Grid 4
I wonder how each of my kids would handle the situation if their friends were doing something illegal. Family
Leadership Game Grid 4c
How can I get my kids to be critical of television ads and not be vulnerable to their persuasion? on
Family Leadership Game Grid 5
I wonder if my kids would consider finding someone in need and helping them. On
Family Leadership Game Grid 5
I wonder what makes each of my kids feel lonely. On
Family Talk Game Grid 5
I wonder what each of my kids thinks is the way to keep safe from lightning. On
Parenting Game Grid 6b
I wonder how each of my kids would answer the question, "How hard is it to hear, 'No' to what you want?" on
Family Talk Game Grid 6
Be the best parent you can be. You won't regret it for the rest of your life!
You've seen the television ads encouraging parents to talk with their kids and finishing with "Parents: the Anti-Drug". This Family Success Master Plan helps parents know what to talk about to keep the conversation going and the relationship improving.
Trust develops from relationship.
Kids do better in school backed by strong, loving relationships, not fear of being in trouble.
When good relationships exist, children work with you rather than resist you.
Use the Family Success Master Plan and you will be so glad that you bought it.
Good family relationships help with the fight against drug abuse, underage drinking, unwanted pregnancies, delinquency, etc.
Most skills do not need to be learned in the School of Hard Knocks.
You can do a lot more for your kids than just hope that they will "turn out right".
Surely better and better relationships are worth $85! Inexpensive for adding so much to your children's success. Not much money for more peace of mind in parenting.
It's not wrong to give your kids an edge on long-term success.
If you want to put a little extra into raising your kids for success, this may just be the best $85 you will ever spend
Your kids are smarter than you think. Get them talking and see.
Turn trips to the store into lessons for life.
Substitute worthwhile mini-conversations from worthless television commercials.
Learn to dialogue effectively and count on better communication and relationships with your kids for years, even when you are a senior citizen.
One of the most powerful things in a child's life is close, loving relationships with family members.
Kids love expressing themselves when it is safe.
Most parents do their best. However, later they look back, wishing that they had done more. The Family Success Master Plan can assure you that you did quite a lot.
Radically change the history of your family for the better.
This is a big, heavy package. People see the value by looking at the Index. They feel the value when they hold the Family Success Master Plan in their hands. | to
help you do your very best This is a professional plan to help your family and its children become all that they can be. Uses a fun game format for conversations and to produce critical results in families and children. Designed by profesiional husband/wife team with over 60 years combined experience helping families, couples and kids.
Helps
your children get the advantage in education, Builds closer family relationships – the key to the prevention of drug abuse, teenage suicide, alcohol abuse, delinquency, unwanted pregnancy, divorce, family breakdown, and at times, poor school performance. Gives
each of your children a good chance for an Provides communication skills for success with people.
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powerful tools to prepare your kids for life Other than love, what is the most important ingredient in parenting? This is the most important thing I can pass on to you after 40 years as a professional psychotherapist, working with couples and families:
Dialogue is the kind of talking that can do the most to build the kind of relationship that is full of trust and respect. There are many kinds of communication, but dialogue is the kind that is most powerful, yet, unfortunately, most ignored. DIALOGUE
IS Dialogue is probably the finest of communication skills. Learning to do it gives people critical skills to build warm, loving relationships. Dialogue is critical to understanding one another and resolving conflicts. Dialogue is the kind of talking that leads people to understand each other. It is not used to change people. However, when people feel listened to and understood, then they are willing to listen to how you see things. This leads to more change than arguing, or even discussion. It is relatively easy to learn to ask questions of each other and ask "Why" questions. Dialogue, with its clarifying questions, helps the one asking to better understand the one responding. It also helps the one responding to better think things through. Our Family Success Master Plan will not only teach you how to do effective family dialogue. But, more importantly, we will give you over 3600 dialogue items to cover over a period of years to significantly help you prepare your children for success in the present and, especially, as adults.
The Family Success Master Plan includes the six Tool Kits shown below. However, unlike in the individual Tool Kits shown, the 18 conversations grids and 4 activity grids come inside page protectors to make them easier to use around the house and in your car. And, instead of a lot of plastic boxes, the Family Success Master Plan comes in an attractive binder (shown at the top).
You receive 3 CDs plus a bonus CD, making a total of 4 CDs. The two shown below are listed above. There is also a CD in the Great Family Activities Tool Kit plus a bonus CD to help you get started (not available except in the Master Plan) .
Dialogue helps build the best relationship with your children because it shows interest in their ideas and thoughts. Dialogue allows you to hear them out and then, in turn, them to grow in their ability to hear you out. Our Great Family Conversations Tool Kit is designed as a fun way to get dialogue started in your family.
Dialogue, if done correctly, is safe communication. As family members talk about lots of things, feeling safe and respected as they speak, trust builds. When increased understanding leads to less problems, relationships become better. At the heart of The Family Success Master Plan are three Tool Kits that use a fun game format to help your family dialogue safely. Each of these Tool Kits uses a ten-sided die and a 10 by 10 grid with 100 dialogue selections.
The Great Family Conversations Tool Kit is the first of these 3 Tool Kits and has the following 6 dialogue games:
The Great Family Conversations Tool Kit can:
THE GAMES in The Great Family Conversations Tool Kit: Getting
to Know You (Family Talk Game Grid
# 1) Favorites
(Family Talk Game Grid # 2) Wishes
& Dreams
(Family Talk Game Grid #
3) Memories:
Family Edition
(Family Talk Game Grid # 4) Emotions
(Family Talk Game Grid # 5) Family
Talk Potpourri
(Family Talk Game Grid # 6)
The Great Parenting Conversations Tool Kit is the second of these 3 Tool Kits and has the following 6 dialogue games:
The Great Parenting conversations Tool Kit can: help
parents decide what needs to be taught to their children
THE GAMES in The Great Parenting Conversations Tool Kit: Us
& Our Kids (Parenting
Game Grid # 1) Thinking
Together (Parenting Game Grid # 2)
Best
Ways (Parenting Game Grid # 3)
Growing
Up – Facing
Consequences (Parenting Game Grid
# 4) Strengths
& Weaknesses (Parenting Game Grid
# 5) Survival
Skills (Parenting Game Grid # 6)
The Family Leadership for Success Tool Kit is the third of these 3 Tool Kits and has the following 6 dialogue games:
The Family Leadership for Success Tool Kit can: stimulate
greater and greater family contributions,
THE GAMES in The Family Leadership for Success Tool Kit: Incentives
& Rewards
(Family Leadership Grid # 1) Positive
Attitude
(Family Leadership Grid # 2) Wisdom
& Values
(Family Leadership Grid # 3) Creative
Problem-Solving (Family Leadership Grid # 4)
Family
Night (Family
Leadership Grid # 5) Giving
Gifts (Family
Leadership Grid # 6)
No one would doubt that academic success is correlated to job success. Therefore, use of our Tool Kits can help kids do better in school and get better jobs in the future. The Tool Kits guide families into varied conversations about a lot of things. In these three Tool Kits are 18 cover-stock sheets on brightly colored paper in page protectors. We suggest spreading some of them around. Keep one of them at the dinner table, one in the car, one or two by the television to use during commercials, etc. So much communication between parents and their children is "Do this . . . ." and "Don't do that . . . ." Or it is about activities. The kind of communication that builds relationship is heart-to-heart. Dialogue gets that heart-to-heart communication going, and if you do it consistently over the years, especially the teenage years, it will continue for a lifetime. Why
not let our Tool Kits give you the start to this kind of lifelong wonderful relationship
with your children?
In fact, we think it most likely that if your use our Family Success Master Plan with your children, each of them will have a great chance to make over $250,000 more income as adults than they would if you did not give them this talking opportunity. SPECIAL
SKILLS FOR MORE SUCCESS No one would doubt that academic success is correlated to job success. Therefore, use of our Family Success Tool Kits will help kids get better jobs in the future by guiding their families into varied conversations about a lot of things. If, later, because of using these Tool Kits, one of a family's children is one job promotion ahead of where he or she would be at age 20 (it could start earlier), assuming working until age 65, – that is 45 years of making more money. If it starts out as $500 more per year at age 20 and finishes up at $1,000 more a year at retirement age, that is probably around $35,000 for the small expense for the Family Success Tool Kits. However, it is much more likely that by age 35, increased earnings would be $1,200 a year. So, for your purchase and effort, that child would bring in over $50,000 more over a working lifetime. However, that's just if you give the increased communication skills of the Great Family Conversations Tool Kit. If you add the responsibility skills that would be learned using the Great Parenting Conversations Tool Kit, add a supervisor's salary increase of $500 a month from age 35 on, and that leaves $6,000 a year increase for 30 years, or $180,000 extra income, not counting the extra income that would have been coming in for 15 years between age 20 and 35. For just one child! What if you have 3? Over a half-million extra dollars or more for your family! And, if you add the thinking and problem-solving skills of the Great Family Leadership Tool Kit, expect management-level jobs to be a possibility and push the extra earnings up to $250,000 or more per child.
And, this is not to mention the most valuable gain from these extra "people" and problem-solving skills: Better relationships. Better friendships. Better marriages. Better relationships with their own children (your grandchildren) when they grow up.
EXAMPLE #1 OF DIALOGUE The family is using the first conversation grid of the Great Family Conversations Tool Kit. The cell chosen by two rolls of the die is 6 down and 3 across. It reads, "On weekends, I like to . . . " It is 13-year-old Leslie's turn to go first. She answers, "Hang out with my friends." Since dialogue is just asking simple, non-critical questions, Dad or Mom reminds the others to ask questions to better understand Leslie and her answer. So, Ryan, aged 8, remembering the basic dialogue question of all time, asks Leslie, "Why?" There is a silence because Leslie has never really thought of why she likes being with her friends so much because it is a teenage thing not often thought through. Finally, she says, "They're not boring." (Sounds like a young teen, doesn't it?) Even though the answer is a bit hostile, the family stays on the assignment for dialogue and Mom asks Leslie, "What makes something boring to you?" From there on the family gets to understand the "inner workings" of the family's 13-year-old member, learns that she is not just being negative, and helps Leslie look at herself and her less-than-friendly attitudes (even though no one actually "called" her on it). EXAMPLE #2 OF DIALOGUE Mom asks 7-year-old Andria what she thinks is the best way to clean the kitchen. She is the youngest of the children. Andria tells what she thinks is a clean kitchen and leaves out a lot. But, since dialogue is not a critical or unsafe communication, no one points out what she did not bring up. Andria is asked a few questions to clarify what she is thinking, questions like, "Why do you like the sink counter to be clean?" Only a few of our game grids have family members responding by age, but this example is from our Best Ways grid, and that one is best if responses are from youngest to oldest. Next goes 10-year-old Josh. He tells what he considers a clean kitchen to be and includes a little more than Andria, as he should, being older. He is asked clarifying questions, like, "Why do you think it ought to be done that way?" – but without any tone of criticism or challenge. And so it goes, up the age range. Each older person can probably add something to what has been said.
This is dialogue, and you will be surprised at how kitchen-cleaning performance will improve automatically. Without criticism or correcting, kids are more able to hear other ideas about how to clean the kitchen. At some later date, the family can sit down and have a discussion (another form of communication that works best if preceded by dialogue) about how the family as a whole wants the kitchen to be cleaned. Instead of Mom or Dad "putting her or his foot down", the whole family can decide – but taking very seriously what makes sense in what Mom or Dad wants. If the family, after a few meetings on the subject cannot come up with a decision agreeable to the parents, then Mom or Dad just explains that it must be done their way since the family hasn't been reasonable. Usually after a few meeting about how the kitchen is to be cleaned, the kids give up childish responses and agree to do a mature job, especially if this was preceded by dialogue. Handling it this way gives everyone respect, builds strong relationships in the family, and creates great teamwork. Back in the dialogue when everyone was telling how they wanted the kitchen to look, the family was getting to know one another a little better. They might have learned that for Andria and Mom a clean kitchen is very important, but to Dad and Josh it is not. Later, something will be important to Dad and Josh and the family will learn to give and take out of respect for one another. What we have talked about so far are the Tool Kits that lay the foundation for loving, understanding relationships and create responsible thinking upon which the following resources will have their best effect.
Getting kids to do their chores is a headache for all parents. Not many kids want to do chores, and, most likely, we did not either when we were children. But, the whole issue of chores is not only about getting the work of the home done by everyone carrying a bit of the load. It is also about training kids to be responsible adults by the time they leave home and have lots of daily-life skills. All of our materials are based on the philosophy that family is supposed to be a group of individuals who work together and watch out for one another. And family members do this in order to help every family member enjoy life and become the best person he or she can be, whether that be a sister or brother or mom or dad. We are suggesting in the materials of our Kids' Chore Management Tool Kit that the main reason for doing chores and following family rules is to contribute to the welfare of the family. While doing chores because they need to be done and doing chores to learn how to live life successfully are extremely important, they are still not more important than contributing to the good of the family as a whole. And, chores really are about putting the needs of others at high priority. We did this ourselves. And, our family did pretty well. We were written up in a half-page article in the Colorado Springs newspaper way back when our kids were grade and middle-school age. (They are now in their thirties.)
A parent's job is to make sure that at age 18 each of the kids can go out into the world and be successful. The best parents make certain that their kids have the skills that might be necessary. For example, one of the most important skills we want our kids to leave home with is that of being able to do chores they don't like to do — over and over again for years with a positive attitude. An example is being able to do a good job of washing the dishes while thinking of other things at the same time.
The Basic Life Skills Worksheets in this Tool Kit are designed to help you keep track of what each child knows for a successful future adult life and what still needs to be taught and practiced. The Basic Life Skills Worksheets lists 131 different skills that should be learned by age 18, suggesting an age when such training can begin on each skill and an age when that skill should reasonably be mastered. The Basic Life Skills Worksheet is designed to guide you in teaching your children the skills they will need to survive. Each four page chart can be filled out for one child (feel free to make additional copies if you have more children in your family than the worksheets we have provided). Check off each skill when you think your child has successfully mastered it. The age ranges given are suggestions only. Even within your family children may work through the skill chart at different speeds. The worksheet is a reminder of skills the children need to be taught. Don't take it for granted that they know how to do all of these things. We also give you Chores Management Worksheets to use with your children. These help you explain what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, and gives you a structure for evaluating performance. Once your kids are in the right mind about chores, these worksheets will be unnecessary. The Instructions Booklet that comes with the Kids' Chores Management Tool Kit covers such areas as:
Using the Kids" Chores Management Tool Kit in conjunction with the 3 foundational Conversations Tool Kits is dynamite!
Usually, kids have a few areas of behavior that are stubborn to change. Our Behavioral Growth Tool Kit gives you some ways to define and reward better behaviors. The Instructional Booklet that comes with the Behavioral Growth Tool Kit covers the following:
What excites us are the worksheets and instructions on how to teach what I (Dick) considers to be ten of the most important skills to have for personal success, especially success with people. Dick has been in many leadership positions, both in employment and in the community. He realizes that almost all success in life is affected by the ability to relate to people constructively.
This Tool Kit comes with two critical worksheets. The Behavior Growth Plan Worksheet is the basic tool for helping your children learn better behavior, more functional behavior, and really important skills. You can use it to review the status of this sheet weekly with your child, showing him or her how he or she is progressing toward improving behavior and becoming a more capable person. The Ten Critical Skills Worksheet is used to evaluate progress over many, many years to give your children the very valuable Ten Most Important Skills for Lifetime Success.
4 pages of grids, both sides shown The Family Activities Tool Kit can help your family do a variety of fun things together. Even though you already do a lot of fun things, the fun activity game grids add variety. The Game Grids all use the ten-sided die and are:
You also get a Family Survival Audio CD with a mixture of games to play and things to talk about. Use this on trips that are too long, when waiting in long lines and any other time when people are getting restless and little fun is called for.
This CD is designed to help parents learn and remember how to dialogue with their children and the tremendous benefits of doing so. Double or quadruple your influence as a parent by using dialogue. This CD teaches you about dialogue and explains some of its most important uses.
We recommend that you listen to this CD right away. The sooner you get started using dialogue, the sooner things can get better and better in your family. Listen to this CD often. It will remind you over and over again to use dialogue instead of all those less-effective parenting techniques. All of us revert to giving lectures that are not heard and "getting after" our kids that seldom has long-term benefits.
This CD is designed to back you up as a parent about the need for chores and rules. It sometimes helps for kids to hear that it is not just their parents who require chores and have rules.
The WHY CHORES & RULES CD will help your children to understand why chores and rules are necessary and suggest how they should think about them. It is designed for them to listen to initially and also whenever they act like they have forgotten why chores and rules are necessary. Unfortunately, we cannot guarantee that the tape will change your kid's attitudes about chores and family rules. But, it sure doesn't hurt to try! You listen to the tape first. Then you have your kids sit down and listen.
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